What do we do when our co-parent shows up for our kids differently than we would? When it feels like our methods don't align, that's an opportunity to tune into our co-parent’s experience and look for understanding. We start by detecting and discussing underlying values. Chances are, we share core values but express them differently. Let's ease away from building panic, resentment, and annoyance. We can move toward building teamwork, unity, and support.